记住：永远不要追求完美，否则你找不到任何爱流进到你里面。
Remember is: don"t ask for perfection,otherwise you will not find any love flowing inyou.
相反地，你会变得非常无爱的。追求完美的人就是非常无爱的人，神经质的人。即使他们能找到心爱的或情人，他们要求完美——由于这个需求，爱就被摧毁了。
On the contrary, you willbecome very unloving. People who demand perfection are very unloving people,neurotic people. Even if they can find a beloved or a lover, they demandperfection -- and the love is destroyed because of that demand.
当一个男人爱女人或一个女人爱男人，会立刻进入索求。只是因为他爱她，女人开始要求男人应该是完美的，就好像他犯了罪！现在他必须是完美的，现在他必须突然地放弃他的所有界限——只是为了这个女人。
Once a man loves a woman or a woman loves aman, demands immediately enter. The woman starts demanding that the man shouldbe perfect, just because he loves her. As if he has committed a sin! Now he hasto be perfect, now he has to drop all his limitations suddenly -- just becauseof this woman.
现在他不能成为人类，要嘛他必须变成超人，要嘛他必须变成虚伪的、假装的，一个骗子。当然要变成超人是非常困难的，所以人们变得假装，他们开始作弊、扮演和玩游戏。以爱的名义，人们都只是在玩着游戏。
Now he cannot be human. Either he has to become superhuman or hehas to become pseudo, false, a cheat. Naturally, to become superhuman is verydifficult, so people become cheats. They start pretending and acting andplaying games. In the name of love people are just playing games.
所以要记得的是﹕永远不要要求完美，你没有权利向任何人索求任何东西。如果有人爱你，要心存感激，但是不要索求任何东西——因为他没有义务要爱你。如果有人爱，这是一个奇迹，要对奇迹兴奋激动。
So remember is: neverdemand perfection. You have no right to demand anything from anybody. Ifsomebody loves you, be thankful, but don"t demand anything -- because he has noobligation to love you. If somebody loves, it is a miracle. Be thrilled by themiracle.
但是人们不会兴奋激动。为了小事，他们摧毁爱的一切可能性。他们对爱和它的喜悦不感兴趣，他们更感兴趣的是其他的自我游戏。关注你的喜悦，要全然关注着你的喜悦，只要关注你的喜悦，其他的事情都是非必需的。
But people are not thrilled. For smallthings they will destroy all possibilities of love. They are not interestedmuch in love and the joy of it. They are more interested in other ego trips. Beconcerned with your joy, be utterly concerned with your joy, be only concernedwith your joy. Everything else is non-essential.
爱像一种自然运作，就像你呼吸。而当你爱一个人，不要开始索求；否则从那一开始，你就关闭着大门。不要期待任何东西，如果某些东西出现在你面前，心存感激。如果没有东西到来，就不需要它来，就没有必要它来，你不能期待它。
Love as a natural function, as you breathe.And when you love a person, don"t start demanding; otherwise from the verybeginning you are closing the doors. Don"t expect anything. If something comesyour way, feel grateful. If nothing comes, there is no need for it to come,there is no necessity for it to come. You cannot expect it.
但是看看人们，看他们如何把对方视为理所当然。如果你的女人给你准备食物，你从不感谢她。我不是说你应该用语言表达你的感谢，但它应该是在你的眼里。但是你不会做什么，你视它为理所当然——那是她的工作。谁告诉你的？
But see people, see how they take eachother for granted. If your woman prepares food for you, you never thank her.I"m not saying that you should verbalise your thankyou, but it should be inyour eyes. But you don"t bother, you take it for granted -- that is her work.Who told YOU?
如果你的男人去赚钱给你，妳从不感谢他。你不会感到任何感激，这是一个男人应该做的，那是你的想法。爱如何能成长？爱需要爱的氛围，爱需要感激、感恩的氛围。爱需要无索求的气氛，无期望的气氛。这是件要记得的事。
If your man goes and earns money for you, you never thank him. Youdon"t feel any gratitude. That"s what a man should do. That"s your mind. Howcan love grow? Love needs a climate of love, love needs a climate of gratitude,thankfulness. Love needs a non-demanding atmosphere, non-expecting atmosphere.This is the second thing to remember.
译自Tao The Pathless Path（需要转载请后台留言）
